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| be kind |
| 11.30.06 (6:54 am) [edit] |
don't forget to be more generous in your assessment of others -- just like you, they're doing the best they can. |
| Learning to Love yourself More |
| 11.30.06 (2:56 am) [edit] |
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How To Love Yourself More Love is so much more than the word used to denote it. Love. To many it is just a word. A word that signifies pain, lies, hurt and so many other similar conditions. To others, the word love conjures scenes of fairy tales and castles in the sky. Living happily ever after. The first thing to look at - do you see love as the substance of pain and lies and deception of others? Or do you see it as the light of delusion in a fairy tale world? What's your first reaction? What does your gut tell you? Substance or light? Is love painful? Or is love a fairy tale? Once you know which of these two you tend to gravitate towards, then you can work with it. Here's how: If your initial tendency is to gravitate more towards the substance - if you believe love is painful - then sense yourself walking into the 'mud' of love's pain. Keep walking. Feel the stories you tell yourself about 'how love is'. About how love 'always goes'. Feel it as intensely as you possibly can. Then walk out the OTHER SIDE of the mud. Imagine yourself being lifted into the light of love. Be filled with the light-ness of love. Feel that feeling as long as you can: You, in the light of love. Maybe spend five minutes on the whole experience. Just find a quiet time and space, perhaps turning off the phone and the lights, so you'll have a few minutes alone. Relax your body and your heart and your mind. Get centered. Then start by imagining the 'mud' that makes up love. If you do this, you will be balancing out your love - so you'll be able to feel more of it. Or, if you tend to see love as more of a fairy tale - start by feeling yourself being drawn into the clouds. Imagine yourself floating through those light clouds. Feel whatever feelings come up, as intensely as you can. Prince Charming, Cinderella, whatever... Then imagine yourself going all the way THROUGH those clouds and out the other side. Next, see yourself descending down to the ground and into the substance of love. Surround yourself and fill yourself with any and all feelings and thoughts that come up. Stay there as long as you can. Again, the whole exercise need take no more than five, maybe ten minutes maximum. That's how you balance the light and substance of your love. It's one way to feel more love. Also, start giving yourself permission to feel the love. Otherwise, you probably won't be feeling much of it. You can't just say the words. You've got to really mean it. "I truly and honestly give myself permission to feel more of my love." Be deliberate; forceful; in charge. "Subconscious mind - I'm speaking to you! I give myself permission to feel the light of my love and the substance of my love. I want you to start breaking down the walls that stand between me and my love." I give myself permission. That's the second thing you can do to feel more love. Practice giving yourself permission to feel the love. "I give myself permission to feel the love." You can NOT say it too many times! Ten times a day, minimum, wouldn't hurt. Could you say it once an hour, and mean it? I give myself permission to feel the love. Could you write those words down in big bold letters on a piece of paper and tape it to your mirror? It can help. For best results, also spend time to balance out your love. This will help remove the 'twist' and the 'weight' that we all put on love... So you can experience a cleaner version of your love - so you will *want* to feel more of it. The permission and the balance. They feed on each other. Practice these two simple techniques and watch the love in your life increase. The more love you allow, the more others will love you. The more love you feel, the better and the easier your life will become. The more powerful you become. The more emotional muscle you'll have. You will become stronger on the inside. You will drift less. You can anchor to your love. It can be part of the foundation for your life.
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| the X in Xmas |
| 11.27.06 (7:16 am) [edit] |
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Already this weekend I saw a marquee on a "buffet" type restaurant..."let us cater your XMAS party"...well, my blood boiled immediately...why, oh why, can't they spell out Christmas or is this some non-secular invitation. I suppose there are those that feel it PC to hold parties that are not "Christmas" parties. My own sister rages against things like this because she practices Judaism...so anything Christmas, anything Christian, offends her...she refuses to go to certain restaurants because they play "Christian" music on their "muzak" systems and things like that. She was enraged once, when I got her her favorite cookbook for a gift at "Christmas", or to her, "Hanakuh&q uot;, and without a thought, I wrote a "Merry Christmas, with love from your sister" in it. I happened to be in the "Christmas" mode and certainly was not thinking of her feelings, which makes me a terrible sister to this day. I, on the other hand, feel that I am a Christian, at heart, although I feel I am more connected with the Angels than any so-called "formal" church. I think I belong to the "Church of the Heart" officially. But I do believe in Christ and I do believe we should spell out his glory by spelling out his name...until now...funny how a bit of research can change your mind in a heart beat. I just love the internet! Technology just makes us as smart as the words we can google! You just have to be willing to take a chance to open your mind and your heart to new ideas...so the answer that I found for the X in X-mas, taken from wikipedia, is this.... About the XEuropeans in the 16th century started using X in place of Christ's name as shorthand for writing Christ. The Christian monks and scholars were knowledgeable of the Greek letter X, - Chi or Khi - which is the first letter in the Greek word "Christos" or "Kristos" (Greek: CristoV) The Greek and Hebrew word "Christos" comes out "Messiah" and mean the same thing: "The anointed One." For many years the X was understood by Christian clergy and as time passed, many Christians, educated and not, were not aware of the meaning. Over time the meaning became lost and was later of perceived as a sign disrespect. So, if this does nothing else, it alleviates raising my blood pressure when X-mas presents itself, even if I know in my heart that the "writer" didn't necessarily know they have done what scholars have done for years...their ignorance is not going to offend me any longer because I will know : ) So, Merry X-Mas to all, an to all a good night : ) (with love, of course, from a silly ole' mimi!)
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| RESPECT |
| 11.23.06 (7:54 am) [edit] |
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I responded to Pastor Dave with this
"one more tidbit in this racism "n" word discussion...i am a mimi "of very little brain", so please bear with me (no pun intended)...for reasons i will not go into, i will just admit that i have had personal experience in "hanging out" with various and sundry folks, not just african american, but hispanic, etc...i found it unsettling, to say the least, to hear them use the "n" word amongst themselves...like "dawg", they call each other "n"...now, i don't know about you, but to me that is like calling me "slut" or "bitch" or "the ole lady" in the "fondest sense of the word" not gonna happen...so, until people learn to think and act respectful to one another and to themselves, things like this will continue to happen and we will still be having these discussions. There is no reason to find this behaviour acceptable under any circumstances and until we find a way to instill respect into ourselves and our families and then on and on, it is going to continue and going to get worse...and...in defense of the "comic", what did those people say to him to get this going in the first place? i know that certain things can enrage even little ole me, to the point that i am embarrased for God to know! i have overreacted to many things, many times because i had my chain rattled...verbal abuse is a wicked thing and when someone is abusive, it sets me off in a terrible way. recently, my beautiful girl was the "hot button" someone tried to use to get to me! If that particular person had been in my reach, only God knows what i would have said or done...but, my point is, we have lost respect for ourselves and others....our young people think there is no guarantee of tomorrow...they don't respect life or property...they "live for the moment" without regard for tomorrow...people in the limelight say and do stuff and then we all talk about it...why don't people like kelly rippa think before speaking...now she has everyone up in arms that she was being "homophobic"....why do we even give credence to these people...surely, there a so many great people we could focus on...normal, everyday good people...not even the "ghandi's or the "mother theresa's" ..why not the Pastor Dave's, Commentators" and "Akelso's" of the world...why do we feed these pirana's called the media? who are they anyway..personally, i come here to learn and love and interact...I do not "watch" the news, it is negative and depressing..what do they know that we don't...i don't know where to go with this...so i will just sumise that RESPECT for each other and for one's self is the beginning to an answer...
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| thanksgiving |
| 11.22.06 (10:06 pm) [edit] |
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"I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and new."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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| Another reason I admire Mary Kay Ash and Mary Kay Cosmetics! |
| 11.22.06 (6:04 am) [edit] |
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2006 marks the 10th anniversary of the Mary Kay Ash Charitable Foundation. Here are some highlights of the accomplishments achieved thanks to your help:
Granted 150 domestic violence shelters $20,000 each – total of $3 million
Awarded cancer research grants of $100,000 each to 13 respected doctors and medical scientists – total of $1.3 million
Donated $250,000 to CancerCare, Inc., a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing free professional help to people with cancer
Contributed $200,000 to the National Network to End Domestic Violence for their Safety Net Project
Contributed $212,800 to the Self-Reliance Foundation for the ¡No Más Silencio! Campaign
Raised $300,880 in the Team Up For Women! Challenge
Donations totaling $275,556 raised by independent sales force at Seminar 2006 Raised corporate donations totaling $63,550 from the second annual MK5K™
During this season of giving, as you consider making donations to your favorite charities, we hope you will keep the Mary Kay Ash Charitable Foundation in mind.
For your convenience, you can click here to make a donation online or log on to www.mkacf.org. Please reference “holiday contribution” in the comments section. If you make a donation by check, please include the reference in the memo section on your check.
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| use my website to earn cash and prizes |
| 11.19.06 (5:56 pm) [edit] |
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Now here's some really exciting news! We're bringing back the super popular After-Thanksgiving sweepstakes.
Here are the details.
• Seven Days Only – Nov. 24-30!
• $1,000 cash prize winner daily!
• 10 daily limited-edition Private Spa Collection™ holiday gift set winners!
I hope you will all check it out.
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| I'm giving thanks for Great Guys! (any out there?) |
| 11.19.06 (9:56 am) [edit] |
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12 SIGNS HE'S A GREAT GUY * * * * * *
___ He Cares About Your Needs
Your happiness and well-being are major priorities to him and he actively works to contribute to them.
(Beware of men whose three favorite words are "Me, me, and Me". While self-absorbed men can be attractive at first, exuding charm and confidence, that act will wear thin faster than he can say, "Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's
the hottest dude of all?" The truth about narcissists is they are so obsessed with loving themselves that they are incapable of truly loving another person. Don't take a backseat to someone else's rabid ego!)
___ He Treats You Well
He treats you with respect and consideration at all times.
Here's a quick way to gauge this: How do you feel when you're around him - happy, relaxed, safe? If he makes you feel uneasy, insecure, controlled, or unsafe, he is definitely not a GREAT guy.
___ He Treats Others Well
He's friendly with his doorman. He's he kind to waitresses and generous with tips. If he's pleasant with other people it's a good sign that he's not just putting on an act for you.
___ He's in a Balanced Emotional State
In a word, he's stable (not overly jaded, doesn't have excessive 'emotional baggage,' rage issues or out-of-control mood swings).
___ He Has a Healthy Relationship Track Record
What is his dating history like? If he's had a few
semi-serious to serious relationships that he can look back on as worthwhile experiences (without still holding onto feelings for his exes or being excessively bitter), chances are good that he's capable of a healthy relationship with you.
However, if he was the king of one-night stands or he hasn't dated much (or at all), these could be red flags. If you know other women he's dated, what they have to say about him could provide valuable clues.
___ He's Got a Good Relationship With His Family
If he's close with his family - treats his parents with respect and is friendly with his siblings, these are all good signs of a quality man. (HOWEVER....BEWARE OF THE MAMA'S BOY! A man who hasn't "cut the cord" with his mother is nothing but trouble...either he'll expect you to wait on
him and make his bed OR you'll spend your life trying to live up to the perfect image of Mommy...Either way, it's not good - so get out now and save yourself for a man who will make you the #1 woman in his life!)
___ He's Mature
He demonstrates maturity on an intellectual and emotional level. He follows through on his responsibilities. (This is not the kind of guy who will blow off a commitment to stay home and play Xbox!) He is clearly ready to meet the obligations of an adult relationship.
___ He's Got a Stable Career
He has a good job or is pursuing an education. This
shows responsibility and maturity. (If he is content
not to work and just sponge off other people esspecially his parents] this is a bad sign!)
___ He's Got Passion
He has goals and dreams for his future and is committed to pursuing them
___ He Has Good Health & Habits
He takes good care of himself (eats well, goes to the gym, etc.). He does not exhibit any deal-breaker behaviors (Drug or alcohol abuse, smoking, etc).
___ He's On Your Level Mentally & Emotionally
He can hold his own in a discussion about world events. He challenges you intellectually. He's capable of having conversations that are deeper than the weather or where you want to go for dinner. Remember, intense physical attraction may come and go, but a man that can keep you on your toes in everyday conversation is truly a man that can hold your interest!
___ He Shows Potential for Commitment
When you begin dating someone, you can never really be sure if he's interested in a serious commitment or a fun `little fling. But you can take a calculated risk. There are ways to glean clues about his intentions by observing his current lifestyle. If he's young, has a reputation for being
a "player," or hangs out with single buddies who are into "the scene," it could be a long while before he's ready to settle down. If, however, his circle of friends are in serious relationships/engaged and/or getting married there is a good
chance that he'll be ready for that phase himself soon enough.
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| inspiration |
| 11.17.06 (11:39 pm) [edit] |
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You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving.
— Anonymous
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| important request from my dil...continuing the search for brandy lynn hall |
| 11.17.06 (2:53 pm) [edit] |
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my dil sent me this moments ago...should you care to help, i will gladly tmail anyone my personal info to mail donations to me or you can just go to the site and donate there
any assistance i am sure, will be deeply appreciated.
Hello everyone,
I would like to ask you if you know of any old cell phones or ink-Cartridges that you may be able to donate.
My friends and I are doing a drive in effort to raise money for Brandy’s (One of my dear friends) Search. www.findbrandyhall.net As you all know, the local authorities have searched and have no answers. So now a non-profit search organization www.texasequusearch.org will be coming to Florida and conducting their own investigation and search. They are world known for finding missing people. They do need donations to get here and this is why we are doing the phone drive. Sunday they are doing a drive in Melbourne. That is what the attached PDF is about. I would like to collect as many over here in Orlando as possible.
I will be taking these donated phones over to Melbourne December 2nd. I can pick them up from any location, just email me and let me know….
Thanks GREATLY for your help!
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| Quoting....Be nice |
| 11.17.06 (7:58 am) [edit] |
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"It takes courage to be nice. It takes bravery to help your enemy or give kudos to your competitor. It takes great inner strength to show compassion for someone who isn't treating you particularly well." Research has shown that taking the nice path can strengthen not only your career, but also marriage and even health.
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| Tranquil Oasis, my personal Sanctuary |
| 11.16.06 (9:11 pm) [edit] |
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The following is an excerpt from Diaries of A Mystic, by Diane L. Ross, copyright 2004 by Diane L. Ross. Diane teaches classes every Tuesday evening at the Tranquil Oasis. For more information, call Diane at 407 898-7918 or visit her website at www.dianeross.com. Her recordings are also available at College Park Video on Edgewater Drive.
Remember to Bless
Always remember to bless.
Let your first thought of another be a blessing.
And then, when you can't do it anymore, when you're absolutely blessed out, bless yourself.
When you feel he exhaustion of life overcoming you, it's because you need to be the recipient of your own blessings.
The giver also needs to be the receiver.
There are no gifts you can truly give unless you are capable of receiving them.
You must be able to look in the mirror and give yourself a smile.
In order to touch the divine inside of another, you must be able to touch the divine inside of you!
The beauty you see outside of yourself is a reflection of the beauty you see inside of yourself.
As you honor the divine in you, it becomes natural to honor the divine in others.
Bless yourself, and the blessings naturally flow to others.
So, let the first thought you have of others, like the first thought you have of yourself, be a blessing!
For more information call Diane Ross at 407-898-7918 or email email
Thanks, Diane, for being my mentor and friend.
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| Monkey Bars |
| 11.16.06 (7:17 am) [edit] |
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This caught my attention, and with a number of doctor visits, 5 in the last 6 weeks, I thought hmmm...I should share this : )
Nice, portable breakfast...I could use that...can't spill it like I do everything else, in my car!!!!
Monkey Bars Recipe
Recipe Brought to you by FoodFit
This recipe serves: 12
Preparation time: 15 minutes
Cooking time: 1 hour
Ingredients
vegetable cooking spray
1 tablespoon butter
1 tablespoon light brown sugar
1 cup rolled oats
1/4 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 cup whole-wheat flour
1/2 cup unsweetened apple juice
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/2 cup warm water
1 ripe banana
1/4 cup dried currants
Cooking Instructions
1. Heat the oven to 350°F. Spray an 8-inch baking pan with vegetable cooking spray.
2. In a medium bowl, beat the butter and sugar together until creamy. Kids can add the oats, cinnamon and flour and mix well.
3. Make it a team effort. In a small bowl, combine the apple juice, vanilla extract and 1/2 cup of warm water. Add this to the dry ingredients and stir to combine. Stir in the banana and currants. Everyone can help spread the dough into the prepared pan.
4. Bake until the top is golden, about 1 hour.
5. Cool on a wire rack. Cut into 12 squares and serve. These bars can be made ahead and stored in the refrigerator for up to one week.
Nutrition Facts
Serving Size: 1 bar
Calories 78
Total Fat 1 g
Saturated Fat 0 g
Cholesterol mg
Sodium 1 mg
Total Carbohydrate 15 g
Dietary Fiber 2 g
Protein 2 g
Percent Calories from Fat 16%
Percent Calories from Protein 10%
Percent Calories from Carbohydrate 74%
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| What Makes You Amazing?...Tickle Test Results for Mimi |
| 11.16.06 (7:10 am) [edit] |
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your Sweet Spirit makes you amazing
Have a heart? You certainly do. Thoughtful and warm, you make other people feel at ease and welcome whether you're hosting a party or just attending it. You can't help it — you're a sweetheart who's a great friend to just about everyone.
Sincere and kindhearted, you look out for those you love and will often put the needs of others before your own. It's no surprise friends and family look to you for advice and a shoulder to lean on. Helping other people makes you happy. That's the best super power any hero could have!
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| learn why i admire Mary Kay Ash.... |
| 11.14.06 (8:45 pm) [edit] |
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The Biography® Channel will premiere "Mary Kay" on Friday, Dec. 15, at 8 p.m. Eastern Standard Time (check local listings). This documentary is a biography of Mary Kay's life, her love and her far-reaching legacy with interviews from top Independent National Sales Directors, family members, and corporate staff.
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| willing to share |
| 11.14.06 (6:11 am) [edit] |
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i have recently posted a number of articles by Mark Ivar Myhre, the one's about emotions. i am on a lifelong quest to understand me and heal the hurts that life can cause along the way. anyway, i actually purchased "marks" e-book called "the magic of forgiveness, how to forgive yourself". if anyone would like a copy, please tmail me and i will be glad to share it. perhaps this may not be "ethical", but i, for one, don't always have the $24.95 to spend, but since i did this time, i don't see it as being any different than lending a book i purchased at a store with friends. : ) i'll be glad to share.
xoxox
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| Keep Dreaming |
| 11.14.06 (6:06 am) [edit] |
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I snitched this from a website...sometimes I find things that I want to say but someone has said them better than I could...at least at the moment...so I just like to share what hits me as meaningful....so, today it is "keep dreaming"...good advice for us all.
Dreams are a big part of our Lives
and You must do whatever it takes
to make them a Reality;
by the plans you make,
the course you take,
and the things you do.
Don't dwell on past mistakes.
Leave yesterday behind,
along with all it's problems,
worries and doubts.
Realize you can't
change the past,
but you can start
a new tomorrow.
Don't try to do
everything at once;
take one step at a time,
Don't ever be afraid
to try the Impossible
no matter what
others may think.
Remember you are Unique
in your own special way.
Don't ever stop Dreaming!
Don't ever stop wanting
what's right for you!
Emusing.com. All Rights Reserved.
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| stump grinder... |
| 11.13.06 (10:01 pm) [edit] |
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omg! on those programs where they combine two households and use a stump grinder to get rid of "eyesore" pieces, ect, they make it look so casual and silly...this article was in my local news today...it is sooooo sad!
ADVERTISEMENTS
http://www.orlandosentinel.co...,0,4085162.story?track=rss
Man killed while pulling dog from stump grinder
The Associated Press
November 13, 2006, 9:43 AM EST
LAKE WALES -- A man trying to save a dog being pulled into a stump grinder was caught in the machine and killed, authorities said.
Robert J. Wagner, 25, and his friend, John Santilli, of Port St. Lucie, were using the grinder while at a hunting camp in the River Ranch area about 9:40 a.m. Sunday, said Polk County sheriff's spokeswoman Donna Wood. Santilli's dog got entangled when the animal's leash got caught in the machine, Wood said.
Wagner tried to rescue the 6-month-old Weimaraner, but was pulled into the machine's blades. He died of lacerations and major head and body trauma, Wood said.
Deputies had to use four-wheel drive vehicles to get to the scene. Wagner and the dog were dead by the time authorities arrived.
Please, be careful...this is tragic and just says, "life is too short" so make each and every moment count......
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| I love this mans work |
| 11.12.06 (7:39 pm) [edit] |
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Why Emotions Hurt
So much of the time emotions really do seem so painful. And the pain just goes on and on and on.
"I want to resolve these feelings but for some reason I never do.
"You say 'feel your emotions' - and I DO! But nothing seems to happen.
"Why is this happening to me? Why do I still feel so bad?"
Good question. -- The bad feelings keep happening to me and I don't know why. I don't know how to make them stop.
If you keep feeling the same feelings over and over -and nothing changes; it won't end - there's a reason why. It's not chance.
It's not because you're bad and wrong. It's not because there's something wrong with you. It's not because you deserve to suffer. God's not punishing
you. It's not because of the 'depression germs' or the 'anxiety germs'.
It's because we've all forgotten how to feel our feelings. We've been taught, conditioned, threatened and beaten until we shut off our feelings.
We learned to not feel our emotions because the world demanded it of us.
You were not allowed to express what you really felt.
Starting at a very young age.
"Don't you cry!"
"Don't you DARE cry!"
"Don't you get mad at me!"
"You want to see what it REALLY feels like?!"
"Shape up! NOW!"
"What are you scared of? Good grief!"
"NOW what's your problem?!"
And on it goes. Maybe you never heard those exact words.
Maybe you heard different ones. But you understand the point..
Few and far between were the parents wise enough to allow complete and healthy expression of their child's thoughts and feelings.
Instead, we learned how to suppress, depress, repress - press in any number of ways - the natural expression of what we were feeling.
Our parents 'helped' us by not letting us express our
emotions just as their parents 'helped' them.
Often it was well-meaning:
"I'm only telling you this for your own good!"
Remember, a child is a sponge. We learned how dangerous it was to express our emotions - usually before the age of five. Before our conscious mind had developed.
At that age, we were operating mostly out of the
subconscious mind. The part of us that questions nothing. It merely implements the instructions it's been given. Usually by God-like figures called 'our parents'.
Like a good soldier, the subconscious always follows orders. (Until it accepts new ones.)
You were given a lot of orders as a child. Orders that you were UNABLE TO QUESTION.
You simply carried out the orders.
Many of those orders concerned the necessity - the need - for survival purposes - to NOT feel your emotions.
Your life depended on you not feeling your true feelings. Or so it seemed.
"No, Mark. You're wrong. I DO feel my emotions. All the time. And it hurts like hell."
I hear you. I know what you're saying. I used to say it myself.
But what you're feeling is probably not real emotion.
You know how I know?
Because you can rarely feel a real emotion for more than a few minutes. Real emotions never just go on and on and on - with nothing changing.
It's impossible. You *can't* contain a real emotion for any length of time without 'tainting' it.
(One apparent exception - grief - is actually a package of emotions.)
You can't store emotion in the back room and not expect it to not start smelling bad.
It's gonna stink.
'The stench of fear' - for example - is a very real
metaphor. Fear does have a stench.
Remember that programming you got as a kid - to not feel your emotions? Well, you can't *really* turn off your feelings.
But you can manipulate them. You can't stop the flow but you can muck it up. You can make a mess of your emotions - a big mess - when you don't feel them and let them go.
See, instead of FEELING our emotions, we manipulate them instead.
One way is by pressing them down. De-pressing our emotions can lead where but to depression?
Or, we could blow them through the roof with mania.
Maybe we manipulate them some other way which might lead to anxiety.
Yet another way to manipulate our feelings is by trying to interpret them instead of just feeling them. For example, we may want to believe someone else is responsible for the way we feel.
"You made me angry!"
So rather than feel the anger and release it, we start punishing the other person. Instead of feeling - we're blaming.
My favorite way to not feel my emotions is by analyzing them instead.
"Hmmm¦ I'm getting angry right now. Why is that? Am I really angry at Mom instead? Or is this coming from my subconscious mind or something? Cause I'm not an angry person. I wonder why they're intentionally trying to make me mad? They must have some agenda¦"
I can easily get lost in the trap of trying to think my way out of feeling.
And by the way - talking about feelings is not the same as feeling them.
The bottom line to all this manipulation - we have a secret agenda that we're not admitting.
At the very least, we have the agenda of not being
responsible for what we're feeling.
Or maybe it's the hidden agenda of punishing and blaming another.
Either way, we end up with a twisted and distorted version of real emotion.
Rather than drinking from the pure wellspring of raw virgin emotional energy - and gaining the benefit from it - instead I'm perverting it into something that is now choking me.
I've polluted the waters and now I don't know what to do.
It doesn't smell too good. I know that.
I've made a mess of things because of my subconscious programming that I don't even know is there.
I manipulate my emotions now because I grew up
manipulating my emotions. It's all I've ever known - or it's all I remember. Now I'm sitting in a mess.
As a small child, I naturally felt ALL my feeling. I had to learn how to stop feeling and start manipulating them instead.
It wasn't easy. I had to fight my natural instincts. I WANTED to feel my feelings. All the time.
They had to really work hard to get me to change. But once I did, I never looked back.
I forgot the power that comes from feeling and releasing my emotions. I forgot how strong they made me. Instead, I began to focus on making the best of a bad situation.
"I can still use my feelings to punish them. I'll get 'em back. I'll use my emotions to hurt them."
That's when it starts to smell bad.
You've been INTENSELY programmed to not feel your feelings. The positive intensity of emotion has been replaced by the intense desire to NOT feel.
But the feelings keep coming. You can't stop them.
You can, however, separate yourself from them. You can create a wall. You can create a gap.
You're over here, and the feelings are over there.
So often, we're not even aware of that gap; that wall.
If there's a gap and/or a wall between you and your
feelings - then they will just go on and on and never resolve themselves.
You can't get a handle on them. All you can do is watch helplessly as they seem to run your life. The wider the gap - the stronger the wall - the more helpless you feel.
What you're feeling is no longer real emotion. It's become a twisted version of emotion. A false emotion, you could call it.
Most of what I used to feel was false emotion. A distorted version of pure emotion. Because I'd forgotten how to truly feel.
It sucked. No wonder I didn't want to feel it! And so the separation grew.
I fought off my tainted version of emotions because they were too painful to deal with. It seemed like the more I fought them, the stronger they got.
So I had to fight harder.
It's a no-win battle and the only way to resolve it is to stop fighting. To stop manipulating and start feeling.
It's not going to happen overnight, but it can be done.
It's like relearning how to breath, or relearning how to blink your eyes. It's hard to explain exactly how to do it.
It starts with understanding the problem:
1. You've been programmed - intensely programmed - to not feel your emotions.
2. The pure raw emotional energy keeps coming and coming. It cannot be stopped.
3. You must do something with those feelings.
4. Doing ANYTHING other than expressing - feeling and releasing - your emotions, creates problems.
5. Emotions are your source of power. The more you deny them, the more powerless you become.
6. Separating yourself from your feelings starts a painful downward spiral.
7. Separating yourself from your feelings makes them seem more powerful than you, and makes them much harder to deal with.
It can almost seem hopeless, but it's not. Just being
aware of the problem can help to resolve it.
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http://www.emotional-times.co...
(For a list of emotions.)
http://www.forgive-yourself.c...
(To forgive yourself.)
http://www.join-the-fun.com/b...
(How To Create Your Own Reality.)
all the best,
Mark
brought to you by
Mark Ivar Myhre
The Emotional Healing Wizard
fiercely slaying your emotional dragons!
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| oh, mannnnnnn |
| 11.12.06 (7:30 am) [edit] |
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my darling girl and i spent a few hours together...she called and said "dillards" :) needless to say, mimi headed for the shower and off to pick up the girl! we had some lunch and shopped till we dropped! it was a great time...
the bad news is that when i got to her house, dear hubby let me know that the doctors have decided that they need to go in and remove the tumor from her head. seems it is putting pressure on her speech center and on some "drain" in the brain. her headaches have returned. these are not just regular headaches or migrains...they are painful shots of pain.
the tumor itself has grown to the size of a golf ball and could easily cause her to loose her motor skills on her left side, the good side. this is not good, so i guess i must, as i told april, look at it as "hey, it's broke, let's try to fix it".
i am not a "doctor" person. my trust in them is immense, yet limited, because i truly look up to doctors, but sadly, from personal experience, realize that they really are just human.
i know that april will have the best available and that my family members have a great deal of knowledge and great contacts within the medical field here. so, sometime between now and Christmas, this is what will take place.
i will try to keep you posted, but don't be surprised if this ole' mimi gets quiet...again.
and...as a footnote, to my brother, gary...you departed this place for a better one, i pray, 33 years ago today. i miss you and love you like it was just yesterday.
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| What's Good About Bad Emotions? |
| 11.10.06 (11:07 pm) [edit] |
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Brought to you by Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard fiercely slaying your emotional dragons!
Clearly, many emotions make you feel bad. Fear, grief, loneliness, depression, anger, hopelessness, despair - the list goes on and on and on.
How can these painful emotions have any value at all? How can they be anything more than a curse? How can they be anything more than a pest - to be eliminated with some sort of pesticide?
First of all, if you spend all your time fighting one or a few emotions - that's not good. Constantly struggling; endlessly battling; with *any* emotion - day after day, month after month, year after year, obviously holds little or no value.
Where's the 'bad'?
There are no 'bad' emotions - but there are plenty of bad interactions with emotions. That's the difference. Just like motor oil is not bad; in fact it's become essential for much of society. But put a drop or two in your drinking water, and...
It's not the emotion that's bad - it's hanging onto it that's 'bad'.
A business alliance is not bad, but making those business associates move into your house; forcing those associates to tag along every time you run to the store for a gallon of milk... inviting those associates to take a shower with you, well... They'd start to seem bad pretty quickly. Especially if this went on year after year after year. And they never clean up after themselves! That's bad.
So the first point to understand - emotional houseguests aren't necessarily bad until they overstay their welcome.
Of course, some emotions you'd just as soon meet at the door, and politely but firmly demand they leave. You might accept their sales literature but you're just not buying what they're selling.
It's our reaction *to* these 'bad' emotions that creates the problems, and not the emotions themselves.
Emotions become bad when they don't leave. When they
tyrannize us, that's bad. The tyranny is bad, not the emotion. If the salesman who knocks on your door leaves when asked, that's not bad.
If you grab the salesman and make him stick his foot in your door, and then make him elbow his way into your house while you pretend to protest, that is bad. (And all the while pretending that HE's doing it to ME!)
Emotions become bad when we let them into our house, either actively or passively, and then lock them in the closet or hide them in the basement rather than showing them the door.
It's not the emotions themselves that are bad - it's simply our reaction or lack of reaction that creates the problems. Your garbage isn't necessarily bad. Hey - you took what you wanted and discarded the rest. Deal with it. Handle it properly and your life runs smoothly. Let it pile up on the side of the house, however...
Handle your emotions properly, and they become much less of a problem.
But where's the good?
Okay, maybe you can accept that touching, experiencing, expressing, and then releasing emotions isn't so bad. But what makes them GOOD?
Where's the value of fear, for example? What's good about anger? What useful purpose could loneliness possibly serve?
And self pity? Good grief!
While each of these emotions and many others deserve a lengthy explanation, for now let's look at some of the general characteristics of these 'no-good' emotions.
Constrictive emotions contain a message.
Emotions let you know if your life is working or not. They're a feedback mechanism. At the very least they serve as a warning light - a road sign - to let you know that something's wrong.
Maybe you need to make a U turn. Maybe you need to take a detour. Maybe you need to stop and regroup. It could be any number of things. Constrictive emotions add to our complexity.
A diamond in the rough doesn't look that special. It's just a little chunk of... what... Is it glass? Is it a rock? You can't really tell.
But start cutting the faces - and that diamond takes on a whole new meaning. It starts to shine. It begins to dazzle.
Learn to handle that excess fear, for example - and you've just cut a new facet on that diamond. Learn to handle that fear, and you become more of who you really are. You add a whole new facet to your life.
Constrictive emotions provide an outlet of expression - like a light bulb expresses electrical energy.
Sometimes things just happen that make us angry. Sometimes we get hurt. Given the uncertainty of life and the countless scenarios that could happen, sometimes we need those unpleasant emotions as a channel, a vehicle, a container; as a place to put the energy.
We need a place to put the energy that's released in the living of life.
If someone cuts you off in traffic, what are you *supposed* to feel - gratitude?! When a loved one dies - what are you going to do with the raw energy that emanates from that event?
How could you not grieve? You're not a robot; you're a human being.
Life demands our attention. Sometimes the most appropriate response is rage. Sometimes you NEED to be outraged.
But if you lock that rage in a closet... watch out! Just like the forgotten potato salad in the back of the fridge, it WILL go bad.
Emotions are a package deal.
Like nerve cells that bring us the full spectrum of pleasure and pain, so emotions bring us a full spectrum as well. The nerve cells that bring so much pleasure can also bring us so much pain.
As humans, we're loved enough to have been given the whole range of emotions. We've been gifted with *all* the emotions - to explore and choose for ourselves what we want to feel.
We have free will. How could we possibly develop our full potential as human beings without constrictive emotions?
We need the contrast. So we can make choices.
Maybe part of the challenge of being human is to find the good in those bad emotions.
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| Crashed but not burned! |
| 11.10.06 (10:01 pm) [edit] |
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Well, all, I really did it this time! I went out and about into cyberspace, investigating ways of increasing one's income at home, on the computer, to find, this morning, that my computer hiccup'ed and crashed! Amazingly, and only 14 hours later, I have managed to defeat those nasty viruses and physing expeditions and scammy thingys..with perseverence and patience (mental patients) and am back, up and running with increased speed and agility! Go, ME!!!!
Now, I am exhausted and must sleep..sleep, my little pretty...no bad dreams of viral conspiricies! Just sleeeppp!
xoxoxo
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| in my defense for not making it to the polls.... |
| 11.08.06 (6:43 am) [edit] |
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Fierce storm leaves injuries, damage
Homes near Oviedo among hardest hit
Willoughby Mariano
Gary Taylor and Jim Leusner, Sentinel Staff Writers
November 8, 2006
A powerful rush-hour storm walloped Central Florida on Tuesday night, destroying homes, blowing cars across highway lanes and injuring residents.
The worst of the damage struck the Bear Creek and Aloma Woods subdivisions near Oviedo in Seminole County, where two homes were destroyed, two received major damage and six suffered moderate damage.
At least three people received nonlife-threatening injuries. One was taken to a hospital, said Alan Harris, a spokesman for the Seminole County Department of Public Safety.
Seminole County late Tuesday said it was activating its emergency-operations center at 9 this morning.
Meteorologist and former Seminole County fire Chief Terry Schenk said it is likely that a category F-1 tornado skipped across the area, causing damage where it dipped toward the ground. Radar indicated 90-mph winds about 200 feet off the ground, he said.
The storms blew to Central Florida from the Tampa area, prompting the National Weather Service to sound tornado warnings for Osceola, Orange, Seminole and Volusia counties starting about 5:45 p.m. Damage was concentrated in northeast Orange County and southeast Seminole.
Schenk was in the parking lot of Tuskawilla Middle School when the storm passed to the south of him. "I could see the circulation, the swirl in the clouds," Schenk said. He did not, however, see a funnel cloud.
The National Weather Service had not confirmed a tornado had touched down but planned to inspect the damage today and could confirm the reports at that time.
Resident Karen Flint said the storm damage to her Regal Lane home in Bear Creek was worse than first expected. The neighborhood is on Aloma Avenue just west of State Road 417.
The pool screen was damaged -- "rolled up in a ball," Flint said. Much of the back side of the roof was gone.
At nearby Wentworth Estates, several trees toppled, and power in portions of the neighborhood failed after heavy winds roared through the neighborhood just after 6 p.m.
Resident Peggy Francis was watching the weather on TV at her home on the 2800 block of Ashton Terrace when the storm hit. She could hear what she thought was the wind beat against her garage door.
"I grabbed one of the cats and went into the closet," she said.
Ten minutes later, the storm was over, and neighbors mulled over downed trees, damaged fences, and even a large trampoline, which was twisted and tossed down the street.
The squall forced about 25 voters to take temporary shelter in Lutheran Haven Fellowship Hall, a nearby polling place. Motorists reported gusts blew their cars across lanes of State Road 417. About 4,700 Progress Energy customers lost power in the Winter Springs and Longwood areas, said spokeswoman Lisa Newkirk.
Darkened street and traffic lights forced traffic at Red Bug Lake Road and State Road 417 to a standstill, said Cynthia Sucher of Oviedo. What normally is a two-minute drive through the interchange took her 15 minutes.
"It was hard to tell who had the right of way to go," Sucher said.
In Orange County, the harsh winds tore up roofs, buffeted debris and broke windows at The Park Baldwin Palms apartment complex at North Semoran Boulevard near Hanging Moss Road.
The storm, which passed about 6:20 p.m., briefly lifted the roof of one building off of its walls, tearing at least one door from its hinges and sending roof shingles flying, witnesses said. Twenty-four units were evacuated, said fire spokeswoman Marianne Nuckles.
Within minutes, gusts knocked the roof off two units at Auvers Village across the street, displacing two families. Three other buildings sustained minor damage, fire spokesman Ted Oliver said.
Seven houses on nearby Commerce Boulevard received minor damage, and an old moving van was toppled, Nuckles said.
A funnel cloud was reported in Volusia County, about two miles south of Edgewater. No injuries were reported.
Robert Perez of the Sentinel staff contributed to this report. Willoughby Mariano can be reached at wmariano@orlandosentinel.com or 407-420-5171. Gary Taylor can be reached at gtaylor@orlandosentinel.com or 407-324-7293. Jim Leusner can be reached at jleusner@orlandosentinel.com or 407-420-5411.
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| WHAT A NITE!!! |
| 11.07.06 (7:48 pm) [edit] |
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Man! Today is election day...I left work 1/2 an hour early so I could vote...got stuck at a railroad crossing...the James Strates Carnival train was goin' by! I've never seen that before...lasted at least 20 minutes...
Then, all hell broke loose...got just around the corner after the train was gone and the heavens opened up...by now it's dark and pouring!
The radio "beepbeepbeeep" signal started...a major tornado warning coming in and towards the mouse area and then another bad storm coming in from the north...the traffic was horrendous...the accidents multiple and the rain just kept pouring down...the sides of the road became lakes and cars just crawled...took about an hour to get where i usually am home by then...so, i ease on over and get across the divided highway, pull into a parking lot, take out my trusty "Classic Winnie the Pooh" umbrella and went in to eat a lite dinner and wait it out.
Turned out to be a good plan...by the time i had some decaf, soup and salad, the rain had stopped for the most part, everyone else was off the roads and i got home without incident....
boy, i keep getting smarter and smarter!
have a good sleep and love yourself(selves)
xoxo
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| Friday is Veteran's Day |
| 11.07.06 (12:01 pm) [edit] |
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Here's an idea for recognizing not only our Veterans of Foreign Wars, but to recognize our active military of today...near and far! Send one a post card electronically...
www.letssaythanks.com
you can send a free postcard from www lets say thanks dot com
it only takes a moment...
then go watch a parade...
make it a great day.
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| Much Gratitude |
| 11.06.06 (9:03 pm) [edit] |
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Gratitude should not be an occasional
incident, but a continuous attitude.
Have you ever had a "boss" that became your mentor and best friend. I have had lots of "bosses" that I liked, that I learned from, but never one like the one I have now.
This evening, as the day was wrapping up, he invited me into his office to share stories...a habit that we started probably the first month when I started working with him...
It started out with general chatter...then some grumbles about mutual co-worker's with their bad behaviours and we got a little smug for we decided they were jealous of our good relationship/friendship and then we started reminiscing about the last 3.5 years of all the ups and downs this ole' mimi has had and I teared up, trying to tell this wonderful man of the treasure he has been for me...a sanctuary for me, a sounding board...a guide through the darkness and how he has brought me to a point that I feel that if there were an opportunity to move ahead...to a more financially secure position, whether within or outside of my company, I even KNOW that I have a lot to bring to the table, so to speak....
this man has allowed me to just "suit up and show up" and then we deal with whatever there is to deal with...if the day was too much, we did little...he NEVER yells or belittles and he always has had time for me, for tears, for rejoicing, for floundering, for advancing. What a wonderful day it was that my boss extrodinare became part of my world...he has filled a spot that i always looked to Sam for, guidance, trust, advice, sounding board...and i will always love and respect this man till the end of my days...the tears of gratitude are brimming as I write this...so, nuff said...Thanks, Al..I love you for all that you are in my world.
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| in spite of work and in spite of the full moon! |
| 11.05.06 (9:09 pm) [edit] |
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Elevation: 125 ft / 38 m
66.9 °F / 19.4 °C
Clear
Humidity: 72%
Dew Point: 58 °F / 14 °C
Wind: 1.0 mph / 1.6 km/h from the NE
Wind Gust: 2.0 mph / 3.2 km/h
Pressure: 30.23 in / 1023.6 hPa
Visibility: 10.0 miles / 16.1 kilometers
UV: 0 out of 16
Clouds: Clear -
(Above Ground Level)
I had the best "seat" in the house at my local home improvement store today...right in front of the exit doors...it was almost as good as a day at the park except I couldn't bring my dogs and I couldn't eat all the hot dogs my tummy thought it wanted because of the fragrant cooking smells of the "hot-dog lady" right outside said doors!
but in spite of everything, the weather was wonderful and I feel better except now my tootsies are tired and I am going to take a bubblebath!
good nite to all and remember to love yourself(selves)! xoxo
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| gotta go to work today |
| 11.05.06 (7:52 am) [edit] |
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i had fun yesterday with you all.
today, back to reality...must go to work.
i'll miss all the fun!
xoxox
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| i was getting ready |
| 11.04.06 (10:00 pm) [edit] |
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Getting ready to meet the family for dinner, I tried taking a picture of me with my phone. I wanted to make sure my hair looked good! I am so silly, sometimes : ) My middle son told me he loves my hair this length and that I was beautiful and cute...he also said that in case no one else said so, I would make sure to let everyone know! I am my momma's daughter...re: Blanche from the Golden Girls references in previous posts! LOL! I had a great time tonite with my family. Nite all...sweet dreams : )
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| What a Glorious Central Florida morning! |
| 11.04.06 (10:02 am) [edit] |
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Last Saturday, you may remember, I woke early (5:30 am) to darkness and rain...cold, heavy rain. I had committed (committed being the operative word) to a 5K race for the American Cancer Society "Race Against Breast Cancer". By the way, I did complete the entire 5K. Afterwards, though, damp and tired, I headed home, crawled under the covers, and there I remained for most of the weekend! I do believe I overextended myself last week because I ended up with a miserable bug most of this week.
This morning, a completely different story. I slept in til 9 am and the sky is bright and the breezes are blowing and it is a comfy 70-something morning! Makes me want to play outside, which is what I most likely will do, at least for a bit, because this weather makes my pups extra frisky! It is a day like a wonderful fall day in New England, as I remember them, where a light jersey is sufficient but cozy and I could run a marathon if I wasn't so darned old and my knees would hold up! : )
Anyway, I have opened up windows and I am enjoying some coffee and my tummy feels better, for the most part.
Tonite I will join my family for dinner out and dessert at the older sister's home...in lieu of getting together for Thanksgiving...every other year we go our separate ways to share with other extended family members...we will "draw names" for our holiday gift giving...this year I vote that we all put April's name in! : ) That never really works out though, because we ALWAYS find something we couldn't resist for this one or that one...lots of sneaking around to share with another when "no one else will notice" : ) all in the name of BUDGET! Not in this family! We all have our favorites and we all cheat by not sticking to the "rule" that we drew names! LOL! Guess that is what family is all about.
What is your favorite family "tradition"??
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| My True Love Is a Leo???? |
| 11.03.06 (9:56 pm) [edit] |
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Funny, Sam was a Pisces!
Your True Love Is a Leo
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 A Leo has a presence and power that you find intoxicating. Sensual and playful, you'll be thrilled to have your Leo pick you as a playmate! Why a Leo will love you: You're willing to let your Leo be the center of attention (both at home and in public) And you're able to tiptoe around your lion - and put up with the occasional fit. |
When I got home this evening (after a twelve hour day) I was greeted by our household dog-friend, naturally. That would be Gracie.