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Heart of Gold - Neil Young
Defining one's self
02.05.07 (8:00 pm)   [edit]

Defining one's self is like trying to eat your own teeth!  Not an easy task.  (I read this one somewhere...did not make it up, sad to say)

How do you define yourself? 

You are not just the work you do...you are not just a wife/husband or parent, although I think it is an important part of who you are. 

You are talents, dreams, desires, passions. 

You are loving, caring, intelligent, artistic. 

You are part of a community, a family, a creed, a race, a nationality. 

So, you say, "ok, mimi, define your self!" 

Aha! I say, that is the reason for this question I pose...who exactly is this "mimi", anyway?  Mimi is mother and wife...yet her children are not born of her and now they are grown adults...her husband is gone these many years, so is she still a "wife"?

Mimi has become many things in these past few years...

braver, yet still frightens easily, especially about money.

lonely, although she has a few very loving friends.

smarter, although she has still not passed Algebra

but, is that who mimi is or is she,

cute and funny

strong and sensible

a major part of an interesting family

loving, empathetic and loyal

confident and self assured (faking it lots of the time)

trusting and trust-worthy

bright

sometimes creative (with directions)

selfless in many cases

generous to a fault

spiritual

not very political nor scientific nor logical...always emotional and loving and caring.

and the list could go on and on.....

This is to be part of my 10th speech for my Toastmaster's club, qualifying me to be considered "Competent Toastmaster"!  The overall idea is living "authentically" , but before you can do that, you must recognize who you are, to begin with...so, this, dear friends, is where it starts.  Can you define who you are?  Go ahead, try it...but should you succeed on "eating your own teeth", please don't choke!

xoxox

 

 


posted by: FinalyFree (reply)
post date: 02.05.07 (5:34 pm)

I think I keep trying to figure out 'who I am'--the beautiful part of aging is the answers come a little easier now :)

I like this Mimi! And I think she likes herself :)



posted by: lindy (reply)
post date: 02.05.07 (6:35 pm)

What a lovely post, Mimi. I'm afraid you've written something here that ironically calls for people to reach inside and put a little effort into a comment, as opposed to running by and dropping a meaningless little 'great post, Mimi!' - hence the lack of comments here.

But you know, I'm going to take a crack at it because I like who I am and don't mind laying out here for you.. I've always considered myself a decent writer, but not necessarily a good speaker. I'm really impressed with your participation in Toastmasters. So, here goes:

Who am I?

Cunning and kind
Seeing and blind
Compassionate to the core
and viciously unkind

Reckless and bold
Timeless and old
Energetic and, truth be told
A little scared

I admire my deceit
and my brutal honesty
I like my skin
I like being me

I crave justice and a level playing field
Defending the meek; a Machete I wield
And I'm as lost as the seeds of a wilting Dandelion
Knowing I have none of the answers.
But I think I'm okay with that.

Someday, I'll say so out loud. :)




posted by: lostin2007 (reply)
post date: 02.05.07 (9:06 pm)

wow, i love this post. I have to be honest I don't know how to describe myself.

I am nice, caring, sincere, and would be glad to help anyone out.

I'm shy until i get to know someone. Although as i get older the shyness gets less and less.

That's all i know for now. I know that isn't much but i'm struggling with that very question now. Who am i? All i know is i'm lost and trying to find out who i am, what i want to be and where i'm supposed to be.





posted by: appletree (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (12:54 am)

Mimi!!! Let me think!!
I will comment again later. ((( It seems this is my homework:)))) Thanks for sharing.



posted by: LadyG (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (2:27 am)

Excellent post mimi.



posted by: swanktrendz (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (10:49 am)

I enjoyed this post, Mimi and I enjoyed reading that this is your TENTH Toastmaster's speech.

My hubby joined Toastmasters in the Fall of 2005, and he loves it.(Good thing as he really did need and benefited from it. He was in a new position at work where he had to give speeches.)



posted by: lorischuster (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (1:02 pm)

I think that it is a much easier task to figure out what I'm NOT. Although finalyfree is right... the older you get the easier it seems to figure out what you believe and what you are about. Great job Mimi. I hate to speak in front of groups! I think it's great you are doing this.



posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (5:59 pm)

Reply to: lindy
you know yourself well, dear lindy, and recognize that we all have two sides of everything! but where you state unkind, i must beg to differ...you have never been anything BUT kind to me! xoxox



posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (6:01 pm)

Reply to: swanktrendz
I believe, Christine, that anyone can benefit from a group such as Toastmaster's...I grew up "painfully shy" but learned from my darling sam that I didn't need to be afraid of anything or anyone! Speaking in public has become one of my favorite things to do, so long as I feel confident about the subject...don't like to tackle anything I don't know about...need to contemplate and research, first : ) xoxo



posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (6:03 pm)

Reply to: lostin2007
sweetie, we are all lost and finding our way...years and experience do help...but knowing who you are and what you are passionate about in our youth is a bonus! xoxo



posted by: PastorDave (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (6:54 pm)

Don't think I'll try to explain or define myself. Someone pointed out to me, recently, that I use the word "I" too much in my blogging, and such is evidence of someone too focused upon self. My response was that it was simply lazy writing, that I could express myself well while seldom using a personal pronoun.

I do think, however, that most of us do not know ourselves very well. We think we portray a particular image, when in reality we are perceived rather differently. It's a challenge, and not necessarily pleasant.

Toastmasters seems to be a great group. A young man at my church truly enjoys the meetings and the speeches. Stay with it. Why don't you practice a sermon, and then come my way and I'll let you deliver it? I trust you.



posted by: commontater (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (8:32 pm)

Oh for pete's sake, mimi, you're all the colors of the rainbow; your presence is felt everywhere like God's breath over dew-covered grasslands, and shining out from smiling face of daises! There. Take *that*, you :) :) :)
PuC



posted by: lostin2007 (reply)
post date: 02.06.07 (10:13 pm)

Reply to: mimi

I'm going to continue to work on the question. :)



posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.07.07 (4:09 am)

Reply to: commontater
OMG! I am touched (and blushing)! Talk about compliments! xoxoxo



posted by: appletree (reply)
post date: 02.08.07 (1:16 am)

Actually, I have both good things & bad things.
Pretty, gentle and friendly
Easygoing and responsible
Sensitive and silly.
But, I am so proud to be me. :)




posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.08.07 (3:24 am)

Reply to: appletree
ahhh, the voice of my little apple! i am proud to be me! that, my dear, makes my heart smile! it is good to know yourself so well that you can be proud! not an ego filled pride, i bet, either, just a comfortable, liking of yourself...excellent! xoxox



posted by: apyjo (reply)
post date: 02.08.07 (7:43 am)

I put that teeth quote on one of my blogs ( Windows Live)!

It's true. I have always struggled to define "Me".

So for blog profiles , I can really only put a fraction up and that 's after a massive thinking party .

The fact that I was a wife for nearly 20 years is a good thing.
Marriage ain't easy but I got cred for it.
Of course my partner ain't here to back me up anymore, but hey we were good together yanno.

I'm sure you'll get through the speech with flying colors.





posted by: mimi (reply)
post date: 02.08.07 (4:25 pm)

Reply to: apyjo
yeah! i do know...like me, your heart is in heaven...you may not be able to "write" who you are, but reading your posts, you DO know! like me, you are perhaps on the humble side and so saying it out loud or writing it isn't comfortable...but, we know!
xoxox

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