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posted by: doeeyed (reply) post date: 02.13.07 (4:42 pm) Valentine's Day has never been a big deal to me. I don't know why but, as far as I'm concerned, it's for little kids and those tiny little valentine cards. I remember making construction paper holders that hung on the front of my school desk and bringing home the 30 or 40 valentine cards I got. As an adult, it's just another day to me. My husband makes a much bigger deal out of it than I do. I always get stuff for my kids though hehe and hubby too. Happy Valentine's Day to you, Mimi posted by: mimi (reply) post date: 02.13.07 (5:27 pm) no, worries...i am going to work! then when i get done there, i will go to work again! by then it's gonna be, who cares, i'm tired : ) posted by: 69whisper (reply) post date: 02.13.07 (9:16 pm) great tips. but i rahter like to follow the daily routine + present a rose to my wife and ask her to be my valenTinA and in return she asks me to be her valentine :))) posted by: 69whisper (reply) post date: 02.14.07 (12:22 am) happy valentine's day :) posted by: doeeyed (reply) post date: 02.14.07 (5:19 am) Well we have 2 inches of ice on the roads, so if valentine's presents aren't bought by now, I don't think they are going to get bought. Schools out, roads are shut down. I can't wait to get to Florida! :) posted by: lindy (reply) post date: 02.14.07 (7:16 am) Mimi, I spent Valentine's day alone a couple of years ago. I bought myself some chocolate covered strawberries and Champagne. I took a nice hot bath and tried to convince myself that there was someone out there for me. It solidified in my mind that these holidays, though meant to celebrate something, are really quite exclusionary and have changed course over the last few decades. Because of how saturated out daily lives are with communication tools, tv, internet, cell phones, etc., the holiday has become more of a trap for retailers/consumers and a sore spot for those who don't happen to have someone in their lives at the moment and who aren't able to 'follow the crowd.' I didn't celebrate Valentine's day last year, despite that I'd found someone wonderful to share it with.. and actually, this year, we didn't realize it was approaching until one of our daughters mentioned it just yesterday. Funny, we've carved out a life that allows us to ignore it. Nevertheless, I like that you are here, offering advice for those who don't *yet* have someone in their lives. It shows that you have a heart bigger than any for sale in the local grocery store. Pamper yourself, madam. You deserve it. :) posted by: mimi (reply) post date: 02.14.07 (1:39 pm) Reply to: lindy thanks, sweetheart.. and btw, love the dark red hair : ) xoxox posted by: PastorDave (reply) post date: 02.14.07 (2:45 pm) Wow, you have put a great deal of thought into this matter. I'll be honest, this Valentines has come along and I have hardly even considered how difficult the day must be for single and especially for alone persons. We had a Valentines Party at church Saturday night, and as I think about it many of our singles did not participate. I guess a crowd of people can sometimes leave you feeling lonely. So, thanks for helping me to be a bit a more sensitive next time. I try, I try, but often it just does not come naturally. I hope you have the best of Valentines, today. Hang Gliding sounds nice. posted by: FinalyFree (reply) post date: 02.17.07 (12:36 pm) When I was single I was lucky and had several single girlfriends. We always spent the evening together and it sure was a lot easier than being alone :) Hope you had a good one! |
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Valentine's Day can be depressing if you don't have a valentine to share it with - it can also be lots of fun, if you focus on the positives rather than dwelling on the negatives.
Do something nice for yourself like taking a long, hot bath by candlelight, or pull out your credit card and a catalog and have fun.
Rent or go to an action movie, preferably one in which at least one of the prospective love interests gets killed off near the beginning. (James Bond films are great for this.)
Avoid romantic "date" movies completely, unless you like feeling melancholy.
Buy yourself a bouquet of your favorite flowers or a box of your favorite chocolates - at least you get to choose exactly what you want this way!
Do something you've never done before. Go hang gliding or horseback riding, sign up for dance classes or singing lessons, or anything else that strikes your fancy.
Go somewhere that isn't likely to be pushing the Valentine's Day theme. Sporting or theatrical events are good possibilities.
Have some fun with your other single friends. Rent movies and get take-out food, go to a nightclub, or have dinner together at a nice restaurant. Call it an "Un-Valentine" party if you like.
Get a head start on planning your St. Patrick's Day party or spring vacation.
Call or write to someone you've lost touch with - could be just a friend, or someone you once had a crush on.
Help brighten the day for someone else who may be spending it alone: Take some flowers to a local nursing home.
Tips & Warnings
A solo Valentine's Day can be a good time to sit down and write a detailed list of goals and dreams for your own bright future. Remember: Only you can make your life what you want it to be, with or without a significant other.
If you decide to take yourself out for dinner on Valentine's Day, bring a book or journal to keep yourself occupied; this will make it obvious to restaurant staff and patrons that you planned to eat alone, and haven't been stood up by a date.
Stay in touch with the world! Resist the temptation to turn off the ringer on your telephone and crawl into bed early.
Try not to snap if people ask you what your plans are for Valentine's Day - they probably mean well, and don't intend to hurt your feelings.